Did you feel sure that your ex would have come back to you by now? Did you think that this was just another spat and that they would come to their senses and change their mind by now and that you would be back together? It's not happening, is it? Now you're a wee bit freaked out that you may have lost your ex forever and you have no idea of what to do to get them back.
Maybe you have already tried some of the more logical approaches to getting your ex back. Maybe you thought that talking to your ex, agreeing with their reason for breaking up with you and promising to change would help but they're not having it. Maybe you've taken the well meaning advice of friends or family and still your ex is non-plussed about the idea of getting back together. You feel like you've been slapped in the face and you're shocked and stunned at the prospect of actually living your life without the one that you love.
I firmly believe that you do have the ability to get your ex back and that if you are sincere in your desire to change your ex's mind and give your relationship the attention that it deserves then I want you to just chill out for a bit. Right now, you are very emotional about your ex, your breakup and you are probably frantic for a solution that will get them back as soon as possible. The funny thing is that the more frantic you are, the more damage you are probably doing to your chances of getting back together with the one that you love.
Being cool, calm and calculating is very important to your success when it comes to winning your ex back and this is why I want you to back off for a bit. By retreating for a short while so you can allow time to start to wipe the slate clean for you has a two fold effect. First, you are less likely to do more damage to your chances of getting your ex back if you aren't constantly poking them and prodding them to talk to you and get back together. Secondly, you need this time for yourself.
You need to step back and understand a few things about your relationship and why all of this is going on. You need to take an honest look at how you have been behaving and how it is affecting your ex. What the two of you are going through is very common and the more you push your ex the more they are going to resist and that simply isn't going to help you to get your ex back.
I know that your heart is breaking with every day that passes that you are apart and it doesn't make any sense to you. Your ex loved you more than any other so their actions just don't make sense. You might even feel that you are dealing with a completely different person than the one you fell in love with and that is because their love is buried underneath a bunch of bogus emotions. The rejection that you are experiencing is mainly caused by the present relationship dynamic that is all out of whack at the moment. It is like a giant seesaw that they have gotten off of that has sent you plummeting into the dirt.
I know that this is going to go against what you feel is the right thing to do to win your ex back but you really need to back off for a while. If you want your ex to look at you and think of you differently then you need to back off and give them some time and space. In addition, you need to get yourself back on track. You need to heal your own heart as well as get back to being that strong, fun, witty person that your ex loved to be around. A little time spent rebuilding your life can make a big difference when it comes time to get back in touch wtih your ex.
It might be tempting to continue to sit at home and cry or be depressed about your breakup but that isn't going to get you what you want. It is time to pull yourself together and become more like the person that your ex fell in love with. You probably haven't been showing them that side of you in a while, have you? Time will erase the memories of your breakup and the time leading up to your breakup but getting the real you back is vitally important to your success in getting your ex back. You are going to have to start living life again and that means laughing and smiling and doing nice things for yourself. After all, who wants to love someone that doesn't love themself. Corny as that may sound, it is important that you have a life to share with your ex if you ever hope to win your ex back.
Maybe you have already tried some of the more logical approaches to getting your ex back. Maybe you thought that talking to your ex, agreeing with their reason for breaking up with you and promising to change would help but they're not having it. Maybe you've taken the well meaning advice of friends or family and still your ex is non-plussed about the idea of getting back together. You feel like you've been slapped in the face and you're shocked and stunned at the prospect of actually living your life without the one that you love.
I firmly believe that you do have the ability to get your ex back and that if you are sincere in your desire to change your ex's mind and give your relationship the attention that it deserves then I want you to just chill out for a bit. Right now, you are very emotional about your ex, your breakup and you are probably frantic for a solution that will get them back as soon as possible. The funny thing is that the more frantic you are, the more damage you are probably doing to your chances of getting back together with the one that you love.
Being cool, calm and calculating is very important to your success when it comes to winning your ex back and this is why I want you to back off for a bit. By retreating for a short while so you can allow time to start to wipe the slate clean for you has a two fold effect. First, you are less likely to do more damage to your chances of getting your ex back if you aren't constantly poking them and prodding them to talk to you and get back together. Secondly, you need this time for yourself.
You need to step back and understand a few things about your relationship and why all of this is going on. You need to take an honest look at how you have been behaving and how it is affecting your ex. What the two of you are going through is very common and the more you push your ex the more they are going to resist and that simply isn't going to help you to get your ex back.
I know that your heart is breaking with every day that passes that you are apart and it doesn't make any sense to you. Your ex loved you more than any other so their actions just don't make sense. You might even feel that you are dealing with a completely different person than the one you fell in love with and that is because their love is buried underneath a bunch of bogus emotions. The rejection that you are experiencing is mainly caused by the present relationship dynamic that is all out of whack at the moment. It is like a giant seesaw that they have gotten off of that has sent you plummeting into the dirt.
I know that this is going to go against what you feel is the right thing to do to win your ex back but you really need to back off for a while. If you want your ex to look at you and think of you differently then you need to back off and give them some time and space. In addition, you need to get yourself back on track. You need to heal your own heart as well as get back to being that strong, fun, witty person that your ex loved to be around. A little time spent rebuilding your life can make a big difference when it comes time to get back in touch wtih your ex.
It might be tempting to continue to sit at home and cry or be depressed about your breakup but that isn't going to get you what you want. It is time to pull yourself together and become more like the person that your ex fell in love with. You probably haven't been showing them that side of you in a while, have you? Time will erase the memories of your breakup and the time leading up to your breakup but getting the real you back is vitally important to your success in getting your ex back. You are going to have to start living life again and that means laughing and smiling and doing nice things for yourself. After all, who wants to love someone that doesn't love themself. Corny as that may sound, it is important that you have a life to share with your ex if you ever hope to win your ex back.
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